The girl can have one of maybe three reactions. Either she thinks (in a voice that steadily rises in pitch), "Awwwww..." or she says to herself, "OOOOOOOkayyyyyyy...this guy is creepin' me out." The third possibility I'm going to consider irrelevant because it is reserved for those who have chosen the Amazon attitude spoken of in a previous post. It goes something like this: "I don't care who you are, I'm not interested even if you supposedly were mister perfect."
Think about it in these terms. Aragorn - yes, of the Viggo Mortensen variety - plays the part of the guy and, after following the girl, says something like this, "I saw you from across the room and I knew I wanted to talk to you." Cheesy on paper, but I know a good number of girls who would swoon if this were to happen to them. Then imagine the exact same scenario only this time the guy's part is played by your local nerd (you can think of at least one poor soul). Let's say they both use the exact same line saying it in pretty much the exact same way, so the only possible difference in delivery is a difference in pitch. You can see that the nerdy guy will be viewed as a creeper while Aragorn is adorable.
What causes the different reactions? It's a tough one to nail down, but one thing I've noticed that it's not really based on the guy's approach. It matters almost solely on whether the girl could be interested or not. In the case of the Aragorn scenario, the girl would kill to have him approach her, so of course she will think it flattering and adorable. Then there is the nerd who has no greater desire than to find an awesome girl to date but gets rejected and viewed as a creeper just because he doesn't have the looks accompanied with the delivery.
I think we should have more pity for that poor "creeper". Granted there are some real creepers out there and girls need to be wary. The thing is that often some of those real creepers are the guys that get the "Oh, he's so adorable reaction." Why? Because they have the face while their intentions and motives are not pure or good.
Here's what I think girls need to consider. Instead of labeling everyone you're not attracted to who approaches you boldly as a creeper, think of them instead as courageous. It takes a lot of guts to do what that guy did and girls need to find prospects who have real guts. All too often I see wimps at the hospital who get upset at everyone around them, including their wives, when they are in pain. Though these wives are happy, I can't but help thinking that they deserve better. If you aren't attracted to the man who shows courage, that's okay. Just don't automatically label him a creeper.
The thing brave guys need to consider is that "courage alone will not save you". Guys get labeled as creepers because they don't know when to give up. When you make a solid effort and the girl is nice enough to give you the time of day, the battle is not won yet. There are plenty of guys who need to learn when it is time to quit. Surrendering can be very honorable if done timely and in the right way.
I think we should have more pity for that poor "creeper". Granted there are some real creepers out there and girls need to be wary. The thing is that often some of those real creepers are the guys that get the "Oh, he's so adorable reaction." Why? Because they have the face while their intentions and motives are not pure or good.
Here's what I think girls need to consider. Instead of labeling everyone you're not attracted to who approaches you boldly as a creeper, think of them instead as courageous. It takes a lot of guts to do what that guy did and girls need to find prospects who have real guts. All too often I see wimps at the hospital who get upset at everyone around them, including their wives, when they are in pain. Though these wives are happy, I can't but help thinking that they deserve better. If you aren't attracted to the man who shows courage, that's okay. Just don't automatically label him a creeper.
The thing brave guys need to consider is that "courage alone will not save you". Guys get labeled as creepers because they don't know when to give up. When you make a solid effort and the girl is nice enough to give you the time of day, the battle is not won yet. There are plenty of guys who need to learn when it is time to quit. Surrendering can be very honorable if done timely and in the right way.
